Recently I had dinner with a female friend and among the cocktails and dim lighting of the restaurant we
engaged in an age-old practice: girl talk. My friend leaned in closer and whispered to me with a glint of
mischief in her eye, “I’m writing erotic fiction!”. After discussing the plot and characters, my friend told
me something that grabbed my attention even more: she revealed that just the act of writing sexy
scenes was ramping up her arousal and making her not only think about sex more often, but desire it
more often. That’s when I told her a secret . . . the more she wrote in this new genre, she was actually
increasing the connections in her brain and making it easier to become aroused.
Did you know that continually learning new things and stimulating your mind with challenges is akin to
flexing and building your muscles? When we do new things, better yet–when we even just think about
new things, the neurons in our brain fire and build more connections. This is called neuroplasticity.
Neuroplasticity: Muscle-building in Your Brain
Neuroplasticity is the muscle building part of the brain and allows us to become stronger in doing things we think about often, while the things we don’t think about or use, fade away. This is the physical basis of why having a thought or action over and over again increases its power. It’s at work throughout our lives.
Scientists are continually studying how our brain neurons react to different stimuli and there are studies
primarily around neuroplasticity. In this article on Frontiers in Psychology called Neuroplasticity and Clinical Practice: Building Brain Power for Health by Joyce Shaffer, the following is stated:
There is a growing corpus of literature on ways to drive brain plasticity in a
positive direction that could contribute more powerfully in strategies of
intervention for healing and enhancement of function than would research on
what drives loss. These findings coupled with recent neuroscience clearly showing
the potential for improving brain plasticity (Goh and Park, 2009) could give
humans unprecedented hope for personal empowerment. Neuroplasticity research
has fleshed out what these chemical, anatomical, and performance gains could
Training Your Brain for Sexual Arousal
Now that you understand the power of stimulating your mind and the neurophysiology of building new
connections in your brain, how do you put that to work for your sexual response? You don’t have to be a
writer like my friend in order to increase your sexy brain neurons. A good place to start is simply
reading! Try reading erotic fiction, there’s a myriad of options out there for any tastes so you are sure to
find something that tickles your fancy. The more you read erotic topics that are new to you, the more
you are flexing your brain’s ‘muscles’ in this area. This will even happen when you aren’t reading, but
merely thinking about a scene that you read. So, even in your down time you could be building new
connections in your brain! These fresh new connections will make it easier for you to become sexually aroused the next time you read, or the next time you engage in sexual activity in the physical world.
In my next post, I’ll dive into the more general health benefits of neuroplasticity and things you can do to ensure you are flexing those muscles and building new brain strength.
In the meantime, Valentine’s Day is coming and you may be looking for some sexy time and to become
aroused either with a partner or solo! So, consider reading something sexy and new, and while you read
you can enjoy a cup of Sexual VitaliTEA my Sexual Vitality Set or your favorite cocktail with my Frolic aphrodisiac bitters added!